Tuesday, November 06, 2007

Most people go out with someone,

Once in a way people fall in love with someone

And it’s a big deal

Then things happen, messy things, normal course of life things, and things fall apart

And one person lets go, and the other person gets sad and the normal 'sad' person does a few of the following:

Get knackered, cry their eyes out, get over it

Get into some useless re-bound relationship, get over it

Have lots of promiscuous sex, and well you guessed it get over it.

What your not supposed to do is this, cry for months, miss him for months, and continue to miss him for months. Your not supposed to still feel a wealth of emotion for someone who doesn’t care about you. Your not supposed to get into some sort of self imposed celibacy pact with a memory.

Your supposed to bounce back, shinny and new. When they call your supposed to be able to pleasant and unhurt, say nice things, ask nice questions, your supposed to hang up with no regret, or at least hidden regret.

God, I think the time has come for me to have get over him sex. Why oh why can’t I???

14 comments:

Jumbie said...

It doesn't work sometimes... today is is the day I met her exactly 13 years ago, and I still think of her, and miss her.

Who's to say what is right, and what is wrong?

Leon said...

That's just what happens. Typical man and woman story, especially for the women.

Mark said...

You can't because you can't. Don't force it. The time will come when you'll something more meaningful than rebound-sex.

Adrian said...

wow jumbie.. 13 years and you still miss her?

putz post hit close to home.. I am still waiting for the get over it part but then again my cut is still fresh.

Christina_the_wench said...

Listen to the men. They have good advice. *hugs*

bitsandgiggles said...

Oh hon, you shouldn't have to take their calls and be nice to them....at least not without a few years of distance between the then and now.

GC said...

I have hope that you will meet someone astonishing that will make you completely forget about how strongly you feel. Someone who will make you say to hell with being loyal to a memory.

Miz JJ said...

I think sometimes we hold on to a memory and make it bigger and grander. Sometimes you need to force yourself to move on especially if you are one of those people who remembers everything.

The OE said...

Expecting someone else to fill the void either emotionally or phsyically is the stuff of romance novels. Secret agents, romantics though some of us may be, know that these voids cannot be filled in such a manner. They can only be covered up and, thus, they reamain open for us to fall into. The voids must heal and, just like physical wounds, theraputic emotional exercises are key. Too bad you're not in XXXXXXX, XX or I'd provide more than just these paltry written words. After all, I'm an expert in maintaining National security.

kimba said...

time to call....... THE SUBWAY GUY..

Not the sandwich hand at the local takeaway.. the guy of the post two down... hmmm...???

marangand said...

TIME...TIME...TIME....it all takes time, but that day will come!

Abeni said...

it will get better..one day you will look back and laugh.if not,shoot me:)

gela said...

That's because our hearts have minds of their own.

dalia said...

i'm a back to back relationship kinda girl. i never give myself the chance to get over anyone, and what happens? i have a backlog of anguish that permeates every new relationship.

keep yourself to yourself until you're ready, girl. eff what "they" say.