I had a male friend over who I met last summer for dinner and a movie, it was fun. He’s a cool kat, whom I am not attracted to in the slightest, but who is interesting as a person. As a single girl I am allowed to do this, hang around and meet people, for the sake of hanging around and meeting people.
Not so much with you tied up folks. Take fella, he had to obtain permission. His girl was concerned (rightly so) since I had met him after they had been ‘dating.’ How dare he want to hang out with some hot single girl? (I had to throw in the hot.) He was allowed to meet me, so long as it was in a neutral place, like a coffee shop. My house, not so much.
Now boys the best remedy to such a situation would be to introduce your girl to your female friends. They would see that these gorgeous girls were otherwise pre-occupied with My man Tuesday’s, potential Would be’s and Alien Hands etc. The threat would cease and desist.
Instead you’ll choose to ‘pretend’ to submit to their demands.
Yet it got me thinking. Why is it that when your in a relationship, your supposed to completely shut off your attraction to other people. Now I am not talking about sexual attraction or cheating. I am talking about the excitement of meeting new people, who you could be attracted to for their points of view, or their life style.
A lot of married bloggers interact with us single gorgeous people through the blogsphere.
Do your respective others ever wonder what the heck you guys are doing? Do you get grief for it?
It seems like most of my married male friends routinely get involved in secret crushes with women they meet. With some prodding, I’ve come to realize that it’s because meeting new people, especially women is like their guilty pleasure. It’s forbidden, so they obsess about it.
Does attraction have to attend once you are happily wed?