Tuesday, May 18, 2010

My grandfather once said to me that the saddest thing in life is to outlive your peers.

I didn’t really understand what he meant till this weekend.

My 21 year old brother was throwing a fabulous party downtown. I am a big supporter of my fabulous brother. And often in life, you can’t do much else in the way of support besides just showing up.

I made plans to attend the party, asked around and found that none of my friends were available to go; no one, not a single person. I lamented for the day when I had at least one ‘ride or die’ friend, who I could count on, no matter what: sick, cranky, work at 5 am, kickboxing, we would always show up for each other. These days getting someone to show up to anything seems to take all of my negotiating finesse. And I don’t seem to have much left.

So there I was Sat night, in my romper (best new look for 2010) with my brother and his friends, taking the odd shot of tequila, having a grand time. We get to the club and all the little girls are wearing skin tight Marciano dresses in many different colors. I stood out in my overly expensive romper. I was different, old, outliving my peers.

Most of my ‘peers’ were home, feeding new babies, watching movies with their significant other or studying for their masters.

I love my life, I really do, but I’m starting to feel like Ted from HIMYM. I’m starting to wonder when I can look around again on a Saturday night and see my peers again.....(and not with someone six years younger, coping ah feel!)

6 comments:

GC (God's Child) said...

well, at least your peers were off doing something else and not literally outlived. . .
I'm sure your brother appreciates you spending time with the small fries who showed up

Pepper said...

i would have gone with you....no one invites me anywhere anymore since i should be at home wit baby...waapen mommy done like party still? mommy aint got no man! sigh

why does the word verification thingy have "raving" as its word? is it poking fun at me too? LAWD

The OE said...

I don't know who Ted is, but I can relate

Crankyputz said...

OE: Ted from How I met your mother...check it out...its good stuff...

Peps: Awww your just in that time and space where your settling back down....you could move to TO though and be my homie!

Abeni said...

lot of my peers are at the mommy stage so we have to plan around baby sitters etc.Btw, I have already outlived some my peers and it's no fun at all

Irie Diva said...

if only moving there WAS so easy... i have actually been trying to figure out how this cud be done and it dont look so easy...struups.