I put on my best balls this weekend, and went on wedding duty. This was my first Trini wedding, what an experience.
Saturday was the Hindu ceremony. I fished out the Indian regalia, and drove to the most booney part of the city, an hour late. I drove into the parking lot and the first thing I see is about twenty or thirty men standing in front of their cars drinking rum. As I get out they say, ‘Gyal, yuh rite on time, yuh just follow your ways to the temple, show yuh face, and come back to the real party.’ So like a good girl, I followed their advice, and went into the ceremony, saw the beautiful bride, smiled, made friends with some kiddies, and then went out and proceeded to spend the next three hours in the sun, drinking rum with the boyz. Then came the questions, ‘So why a pretty little ting like yuh out here on yuh own?’ ‘How yuh know N?’ ‘Let me introduce yuh to all the single men, here, here’s Sasha, he’s got a wife and kids, but he single when they ain’t around.’ And so on. They loved the fact that I was from Dubai, and all in all I got five solid invitations for Carnival next year.
Sunday came the reception. I must say hats off to N and wife, for pulling quite a show. There were at least four hundred guests, and the highlight for me was definitely the tassa drums. (I am currently scheming to find an occasion that would warrant the hiring of the tassa crew.) The tassa drums were hot and the drum men loved the red gown I was wearing. I got comments like, “Hotness, yuh tryin to give meh ah heart attack.’ ‘How yuh get into that dress, leave the man yuh wit, I show yuh how to take that dress off the rite way.’
All in all it was good times, though I do not recommend going to a wedding alone. There is a certain amount of shame associated with a woman going to a wedding alone, which men are immune too. Perhaps its our own creation, but you tend to feel it when the slow dances come on, and you have to dance with the slightly rotund, firm gripping only single friend on the table…….Now who want to see pictures of the red dress?