Monday, August 13, 2007

Blind Date: Take One

I’ve never been set up before. A little bit because I think my friends and family are a scared of me….and mostly because I usually meet a lot of men, and it would be like taking candy from a child.

Based on this experience, I have to tell all the single ladies out there, ‘Blind Dates (set up by friends) are the way to go.’ Your friends would never set you up with a psycho, so it’s a pretty safe bet.

As for my experience:

I get to the restaurant fashionably late, and BD is waiting for me. It seems that my dear friend forgot to mention one key fact about BD, his enormous size. The man is a giant. He is at least 6”5, and ridiculously muscular. Beside my petite frame he looked like the incredible hulk. Quite good looking, with green eyes, well dressed, let’s face it ladies, first impressions are the key, and besides his mammoth size (he can’t help his genetics) he passed with flying colors. At the restaurant he was very charming, and sweet. But it sort of felt like an interview, Do I like kids, what am I doing right now, Where do I see myself in five years, What Kind of foods do I like. I didn’t feel like he was grilling me, but it was definitely the 20/20. And sadly there were no butterflies. Also missing was the clever Harry met Sally verbiage. There were also little things that came up, like how he doesn’t like people cooking curry at home (um I’m Indian we love cooking at home!) and the man doesn’t dance, doesn’t like soca, doesn’t like latin music….

So perhaps you can all get on the band wagon and call me too picky, but I like to think of myself as a lady who knows her mind….and whose one great quality is being able to tell the difference between what she wants, and what she doesn’t…

So rather than lead him on, I don't think there'll be a second date....

Now how do I get someone to break it to him??

17 comments:

blog Portland said...

Just tell him that you're not into guys who use steroids. And then run, lest he rips out of his purple shorts.

GC said...

Please please please consider going on a second date with him. I mean, has it ever happened to you that the butterflies came later?
Also, is that all you are looking for in a man: likes latin music and soca, likes dancing, and loves cooking curry at home?

Hey CP, there's more to you than that. Your friend probably didn't just set you up because of his looks but also because he has some great qualities that you will definitely like if you take a moment to uncover them. Are you looking for a great guy or just a male version of yourself?

bitsandgiggles said...

I'm all for butterflies on the first date. Is he really close to your friend? The "correct" thing to do is probably honesty...but I think that only really happens 1 time out of 10. If you only went out with him once and he's not your friend's best friend it's completely acceptable not to call him back after sending a small "thank you" email or phone call.

Crankyputz said...

Wow so today is my humble day.

GC: Those were a few examples I felt of incompatibility. There were a lot more. No, I don't necessarily want a male version of me...he can vary a wee bit ;)

B&G: Not a best friend, I did the email, and I really do think he is a great guy, just not the guy for me, hopefully we can be friends...

Adrian said...

nixed after one date!

are guys supposed to get butterflies too? I think mine died.

Mighty Afroditee said...

I agree with GC. Think u should have anudda date, even if there is no butterfiels, the friendship can evolve from the 2nd date, and u can give him 'friend' vibes whilst on the 2nd date...

scratchie said...

I guess it comes down to what you feel. One date does seem kind of short though but hey...

Jdid said...

just give it to him straight. dont let him think he has a chance and lead him on or waste his time

The OE said...

Secret agents know that chicks dig cavemen

Bush Babee said...

Forget the response. I find it cool that you said yes to the blind date in the first place.

No matter what anyone says, you can forget how to ride a bike.

Holla

Island Spice said...

NO CURRY?!?!
NO SOCA??!?!

what manner of evil is this??
THAT my dear requires no niceties.
RUN!!!!

gishungwa said...

Second date with a friendship theme. I love home made curry esp now that i just learnt how to make it.

Christie said...

I say stick with what you feel. I think if there was a spark for you, the other stuff wouldn't really matter, you know. Why waste your time and his if it just isn't there?

Fiyah said...

I agree with Spice... no soca is a deal breaker.

jay bee said...

tell him there is no sexual chemistry.

and what kinda man doesn't like latin music? chupse? i hate soca, so i have to say, i agree with him on that.

a big deal breaker is a guy who doesn't like to dance....

chupse.

SimplEnigma said...

I stopped reading after no soca.

But you see??? Take it from me, it could have been much worse. Much, much, much worse.
At least he was goodlooking.

solitaire said...

I love tall, big guys...but sounds like he's white. And I don't date white dudes.

He sounded cute but if y'all don't 'click', then it won't even matter in the long run.

Tell him to gwans, just be straight up girl.